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Married Cheating - The Facts The facts about Married Adultery(sexual unfaithfulness to a spouse) are frightening. Polls show that although 90% of married people disapprove of extramarital relationships, statistics from a national survey indicate that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands have experienced extramarital intercourse. These numbers increase by 20% when emotional affairs and sexual relationships without intercourse are included. Another source, The Monogamy Myth, produced by Peggy Vaughan, approximates that 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some time in their marriage. Marital Adultery - The Truth Another term for marital infidelity is adultery. The New Encyclopedia Britannica reports that, "adultery seems to be as universal and, in some instances, as common as marriage." In fact, marriage researcher, Zelda West-Meads, states that although much adultery is never discovered, "all the evidence points to affairs being on the increase." These statistics are amazing, but what is even more alarming is that they do not even come close to revealing the strong emotional impact that marital infidelity has on people's lives. Imagine the inconsolable grief and pain, not to mention the confusion, anxiety, and sleepless nights that are all wrapped up in these numbers. When all is out in the open, the faithful spouse may survive the nightmare, but his or her scars will not easily heal, and the damage done to the marriage may never be completely repaired. Extra marital affairs can also take their toll in some long-term consequences that both spouses will have to deal with for many years, such as sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. Marital Infidelity - Why it Happens The reasons for marital affairs are as many and as varied as the people involved. Emily M. Brown, LCSW, Director of Key Bridge Therapy and Mediation Center, has grouped the reasons for extramarital adultery as follows: conflict avoidance, intimacy avoidance, sexual addiction, split self, and exit. Many of the explanations outlined here fit into one or more of these groups. Interestingly, marital cheating are not always a sign of a troubled marriage. Some spouses succumb to the lure of an extramarital relationship as the result of experiencing abnormal stress over a normal lifestyle change, such as becoming a parent or an empty nester. So adultery can occur in happy marriages as well as unhappy ones. In some cases, the marriage partners may appear contented to outsiders, but the husband or wife begins cheating because of their own low self-esteem, habitual conflict avoidance, or fear of intimacy. The faithful spouse has worked hard for the marriage; but no matter how hard they work, the unfaithful spouse is going to have an affair because of their own lack. Other reasons for marital infidelity are typically symptomatic of an unhealthy, and often, failing marriage. These are things like the lack of affection between the marriage partners, the sexual addiction of one or both spouses, the feelings of sexual entitlement based on gender or status, and the means of exiting from an unhappy marriage. Marital Affairs - How to Treat it No matter how marital adultery is categorized, all of the reasons are like a disease that chews away at the roots of a healthy plant to eventually kill it. Marital adultery can never be the cure for that disease. Instead, extramarital affairs cause the sickness to expand like cancer, and soon the entire marriage is infected and extreme actions must be taken to rescue it. Find out more about dealing with affairs at www.affair-detector.info
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