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11 October 2007 Focusing Illusion |
Pilates |
Cellulite | Quantum Touch | AntiAging Diet | Kissing
This eZine (No. 100)
The Focusing IllusionBy: Ainsley LaingA win on the lottery is not the key to enduring happiness, according to researchers in the UK and US who study what makes people happy. Apparently, after the initial euphoria wears off, people return to the same level of happiness they had before the lottery win. There’s much speculation among the researchers as to why. Have you ever heard the term “focusing illusion”? It basically boils down to the idea that when people think about or fantasize about a major life change, we tend to exaggerate the effect the change will have on our happiness. We imagine it will be either far better or far worse than what actually happens after the dust settles from the change. Has this happened to you? Have you ever worked toward buying something, say a nice car? First you say to yourself, “boy, I would love to have that car”. After a while, you make a decision to save to buy the car. Your thoughts change to “when I have my new car…things will be great!” You save and the day comes to buy the car. It’s a wonderful day, you are elated to be behind the wheel of this amazing vehicle and you just know that everyone is envious of you and your flash car. Days and weeks go by. Life continues as usual. It begins to dawn on you that, although you are very happy with the car itself, you are no more happy with life than before you had it. See how this works? What about bigger life changes like a new job, new spouse, location change, new baby, etc…? For those of you who have teens in your home: How often have you heard this? “When I go to university and leave home, things are gonna be much better for me” or similar comments. Well, we parents who went through it already know that while the freedom of growing up is really fun and exciting, there is responsibility associated with it. The initial euphoria of leaving home and being on your own wears off and becomes “normal” or even difficult. Divorce is another example. If you have been through one (unfortunately, many of us have), you might remember reaching the decision in your mind that you had had “enough”. Even if you were not the one who wanted the divorce – you probably got there anyway. With that decision, your mind turns toward the future: how much better your life will be without the other person, how you will be free to find someone better for you, how you will be free of conflict and fighting and, of course, if you are divorcing because you feel you are in love with someone else, how much better your life will be with your new love. And so it goes… What was the long term reality? My guess? After a few years in your new life, you were the same person as before your problems began. Am I right? Yes, you were unhappy with the SITUATION of your old life; but if you were generally happy within yourself, you remained so. If you were not, once the focusing illusion is gone, you were the same - unhappy. There is a dark side to the focusing illusion. Do you know someone whose parent, spouse or boss is overly critical? Don’t you feel sad or worried for the person? What would you say to them if they asked? Run away – this relationship is not good for you. Yet, this person probably keeps a hold of the focusing illusion “if only I could do this or have this, I would feel loved by my parent, spouse or be rewarded by my boss.” This dynamic occurs in many abusive relationships: verbal, emotional and physical. Not healthy. Yet many people propagate this, because of the optimism the focusing illusion provides. While the focusing illusion can help us work toward a goal, wisdom helps distinguish the reality from the fantasy. Life experiences teach us that external forces (people, situations and material things) cannot “make” us happy or unhappy. Blaming others for our unhappiness or depending on others to provide happiness only serves to alienate everyone close to us. In fact, by believing this we are giving away our personal power of self determination and our choice to be happy. The moral of this story? The focusing illusion serves to motivate people in many ways. It contributes to our ability to dream and remain optimistic in the face of adversity. Dreams drive us forward and give us the power to make our lives magnificent. To put it in another way: it’s not the dreams or desires themselves that make us happy. It’s the accomplishments and connections that come with pursuing them with honesty and integrity that is the true root of our happiness. It's the process of getting there…. About the Author: Ainsley Laing, MSc. has been a Fitness Trainer for 25 years and writes exclusively Body for Mind eZine. She holds certifications in Group Exercise, Sports Nutrition and Personal Fitness Training. She is also a professional engineer and mom. To see more articles by Ainsley visit http://www.bodyformind.com or the blog at http://www.bodyformind.blogspot.com Sources: Staying happier for longer. By Professor Martin Seligman. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/happiness_formula/4903464.stm Study Shows "Grass is Greener" View Usually False http://www.mercola.com/1998/archive/grass_is_greener.htm  Pilates Basics And Everything You Need To Know About PilatesBy: Tammy FosterThe basics of Pilates are based on a series of exercises that Joseph H. Pilates designed to help the soldiers of war to regain their strength. After serving the broken and injured soldiers of the war, Joseph eventually bought his new exercise program to the United States where he gained a loyal following in the state of New York. Pilates basics are known for using intense concentration on a specific body part as well as on a specific series of breathing techniques while you perform a prescribed series of movements. It is the combination of these challenges which make Pilates a champion exercise. With Pilates, one of the very first things you will need to learn is to focus on the "powerhouse" or the core of your body. It is just a fancy way of saying "your abdomen". The basics of Pilates teach that if you work your body movements from the core or the powerhouse, then your muscles will move more easily and fully through their entire range of motion. With the focus of Pilates being on the abdominal muscles, these muscles must get stronger in order to allow you to fully execute the movements of Pilates. The spinal and abdominal muscles make up the powerhouse muscles and should be your focus throughout each movement. The abdominal muscles are made up of the rectus abdominis, the transverse abdominis, and the internal and external obliques. The basics of Pilates also leads to improvement in your balance, your coordination and flexibility and even in your strength. It is a bit hard to believe but by focusing on your powerhouse and moving through each Pilates exercise you will soon feel the difference in your body. While Pilates is a kinder and gentler exercise, similar to yoga, it should not be mistaken for a "wimpy" exercise. Ask devotees of Winsor Pilates and they will be the first to tell you that Mari Winsor has created a Pilates exercise designed around "dynamic sequencing". With "dynamic sequencing" Winsor Pilates aggressively works the core of to create a longer and leaner body. A gentle form of exercise, Pilates can be practiced by people at a variety of fitness levels. It is safe on the joints and its simple stretching allows you to move into the exercises without the joint pounding action of other more strenuous exercises. Pilates will leave you feeling taller, leaner, energized and confident. The breathing exercises that accompany all Pilates movements will help you to feel calmer and more centered. If you are looking for stronger muscles, better tone and even longer and leaner muscles, then consider the Pilates basics and see if you don't find that it works well for you too. With this basic set of specific exercises, many of those who practice Pilates find rather quickly that their body responds well to these type of exercises. More energy, confidence, strength; yes, that makes Pilates basics sound like a plan for me! About the author: For more information on Pilates be sure to visit the-pilates-zone.com. You'll find tips and advice on Pilates techniques, Pilates basics, Pilates and pregnancy, and much more information. Comic ReliefPet
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 Get Rid Of Cellulite With Consistency And PersistenceBy: Celeste LynneGetting rid of cellulite is the goal of many women after they first notice those ugly lumps and bumps on their thighs. Their fist instinct is to buy the first product they see offering an instant solution. However, common sense tells us if it's too good to be true, it usually is and cellulite reduction is no exception. Having a bit of cellulite on your skin is not something that is physically harmful. Rather, the danger that often occurs in those with cellulite is a reduction in self confidence which can be extremely damaging. For those who see cellulite ripples as a natural part of life, reduction is generally not necessary to their well-being. Many women have made the decision to take steps to reduce their cellulite. If you fall into this group you will quickly begin to see that there are numerous cellulite treatment options available to you. Products ranging from lotions and creams to spa treatments to medical procedures are available. Among the most overlooked weapons against cellulite formation is proper diet and exercise. When you are active your body fat tends to be lower overall and this has a direct impact on the amount of cellulite that will form on your body. However, even for women in excellent shape, cellulite can be a problem. Along with exercise, a proper diet is an effective cellulite fighter. The good news is that by eating healthier and staying active, you not only improve your chances of keeping cellulite at bay, you also make significant improvements to your overall health. After all, good health is the cornerstone to looking good in general. Now that you are taking care to get plenty of activity and eat right, it's time to turn up the heat a bit on the cellulite that's taken up residence on your thighs. Choose a high quality anti cellulite cream or lotion to begin using. Consistency of application is key so be sure to follow any instructions provided by the manufacturer. In addition, be sure your fitness routine includes lower body training to keep muscles toned. Once you've chosen a cellulite product to use, be sure to give it enough time to work. Evaluation of a cellulite cream can take four weeks or longer so don't give up on it right away. However, if after several week of consistent use you are not seeing results, try another product. If you are faithfully following a muscle building program, applying a quality anti cellulite cream to affected areas and eating a good diet, you should notice a significant reduction in the cellulite on your body. Although it does take some work and persistence, these key cellulite reduction strategies really work. About the author: If you're ready to start getting rid of cellulite, stop by http://www.healthyskincaretreatments.com for more information and preferred cellulite treatment resources. Quantum Touch - The Healing TouchBy: Fred HQuantum touch is literally the healing touch that has gained more and more recognition in the last twenty years. It is now discussed as a central topic of modern holistic medical investigation. Quantum touch has been proved to be an astonishingly effective treatment for a variety of disorders, which includes some that were believed to be incurable. Quantum touch can easily be learned by yourself or, if you are not merely wish to receive the benefits without the ability to help others, you can go to quantum touch therapy sessions. Many chiropractors, physical therapists, and osteopaths among others use it in their regular work. It is so easy to learn and practice quantum touch that thousands of people have started using it as a normal part of their lives. And they are more than satisfied with the results. They have seen that quantum touch can be used to fix everything form simple inflammation, to broken bones, to Multiple Sclerosis. Quantum touch can help you by greatly boosting your bodies healing ability. This will raise your overall health, giving you a much improved ability to resist diseases (finally, a cure for the common cold!) as well as greater physical energy. It will also help you in specific instances, for example, if you were to sprain your ankle you could immediately fix it. Of course, this is if you actually learn it yourself. If you are not willing to make even so little effort as is required to pick up the skills, then you can still receive a great deal of benefit from regular therapy sessions. If you have a specific complaint, then one or two sessions should be enough to heal you completely, but you might want to go every few weeks anyway just to keep yourself in top condition. Like all good things in life, the more you share your ability to heal others through quantum touch the more it will benefit you. So, while you are relieving someone's pain you are enhancing your own energy levels. There is no mystery to it. It happens because when you are applying the quantum touch, you are raising your vibration in exactly the same measure regardless of whether you are applying it to yourself or to another. It is more like love; the more you give the more you get in return. Similarly, the more you heal, the more energy you have, and the better you feel. To top it all, you can extend this healing effect to other things as well. For instance, you can greatly increase the life of cut flowers by applying quantum touch energy. One person has discovered that the taste of wine can be improved by channeling the quantum touch energy into it. You can be innovative with this powerful ability and think of new ways to use quantum touch to make this world a better place to live in. About the author: Fred H is a Quantum Touch master, who now runs Quantum Touch workshops and runs a site devoted to the exploring of Kwantum Touch and similar things. Anti Aging Diet CareBy: Marianna PellsAs a result perhaps of the media and the common perception that youth is beauty, more and more people are getting conscious of how they look these days. Consequently, more and more anti aging diet care methods are arising to keep up with this demand. However, if you are to get the most out of these anti aging diet care methods that promise the results you want, you will have to do more than enter into an anti aging diet care method. If you want lasting results, you will have to look into other health concerns such as calorie and fluid intake as well as a healthy lifestyle. Reducing calorie intake is one of the best way to start looking young and feeling young. Lowering your intake of calories can help reduce health risks and extend life expectancy. Studies show that limiting calorie intake can prevent certain ailments and diseases which are mostly associated with physical maturity. Statistics have shown that individuals in their 50's who practiced lesser calorie intake had blood pressures of a 10-year-old. Other studies show that in rodents and primates, those that were on restrictive diets lived longer than their maximum life spans. According to Hormesis Hypothesis of calorie restriction, the amount or level of calorie in our body affects our stress tolerance level. Since stress is one of the primary causes or factors of aging, people who are aiming to delay aging should also necessarily lower calorie, consequently increasing stress tolerance and delaying aging. Although decreasing your calorie intake is already a big help in your fight against aging, having a healthy food diet which includes fruits and vegetables can help you even more. This is because fresh fruits and vegetables contain anti-aging properties. The following are more examples of food that can help improve your overall health and delay aging: Berries - berries are good sources of flavanoids and antioxidants. These two anti-aging properties help prevent free radicals from attacking and damaging your cells, thus, delaying aging. Avocados - These fruits contain monounsaturated fat, which can lower down bad cholesterol in the body. It is also a good source of potassium that prevents high blood pressure and Vitamin E, which heals and maintains the health of skin. Nuts - Nuts are good sources of minerals and protein which help build up or repair body cells and help strengthen the digestive and immune system. Garlic - Garlics are known to reduce risks of heart failures. Cruciferous vegetables - Broccoli, radish and cauliflower are just some examples of these cruciferous vegetables which help prevent cancer diseases. One of the more common health practice that help delay aging and strengthens one's immune system is the hydrotherapy or drinking lots of fluids, especially water. Since dehydration causes stress-induced damages on our body's cells, replenishing our body adequately with the water it needs can effectively help flush out wastes and toxins and rejuvenates dehydrated tissues. Fasting, or the avoidance of food and drinking only water for a certain period, is also known to help delay aging. Fasting with adequate hydration can help flush out toxins in our body, as well as help control our weight. Fasting can also result to healthier skin (due to fasting's detoxifying effect on the body), better bowel movement, better blood circulation and delayed cell deterioration. About the author: Find out more of Marianna Pells' SECRETS to maximizing your anti aging healthy diet and and visit her site for anti aging treatment How To Make Your Kissing UnforgettableBy: Datehow.com StaffKissing can give lots of fun and enjoyment, if you’re really good at it. And you should be good at it! Because lots of women think that if you can’t do get that right, especially the first kiss, chances are you won’t be able to do good for the rest either. So if you want to learn how to kiss, or you feel unhappy with the kind of kiss that your partner is giving you, try to look for kissing tips in magazines, books and on the internet! Kissing tips are usually printed to guide you particularly on your first kiss. These tips can make kissing your most romantic and treasured experience ever. Kissing, in the dictionary means, to touch or caress with the lips as an expression of love, respect or appreciation. It is a subtle art that must be taken intimately with your partner. The best and most enjoyable style of kissing is the one that makes use of different variations. Some partners start with small, gentle kiss, going into a French kiss, and eventually found themselves sucking each other’s upper or lower lip. However, the perfect and most romantic kiss is the one that is shared with the person that is really special to you. Though a good kiss can definitely make two people become closer, still, there is nothing more sincere and passionate than a kiss with someone you really care about. To avoid nervousness and embarrassing circumstances especially for first timers, it is important to know some kissing tips. There are lots of people who have been writing on how to triumph over the fear of kissing someone. As there are various types of kissing, there are also lots of kissing tips depending on the types of kiss, the person you want to kiss and many other factors. Among the kissing tips that you’ll find in the net are basic kissing tips, French kissing tips, tips on how to be a great kisser, first kiss tips, kissing tips for men, kissing tips for women, kissing tips for teens, kissing tips for dating and romantic kissing tips. For teens, it is always good to read first the basic kissing tips as it is the stepping stone to more intimate and more passionate type of kiss. Since your first kiss is a moment that you will both want to cherish, it is more romantic and less embarrassing if done while the two of you are alone. A throng of people around you will surely not enhance this particular moment. So why not take your partner for a walk or ride and go to a place where you can engage into an intimate revelry of two. When the sparks start flying, and the two of you are already kissing, don’t just leave kisses to the lips. It is more seductive and romantic if you kiss your partner’s chin, neck, tip of the nose, cheeks and even their eyelids. But more than that, there are other kissing tips that each of us should bear in mind. See to it that you have a good breath! I’ll bet you will agree if I say that the surest way to spoil a perfect kiss is by having a bad breath. So brush your teeth before going out for a date or carry around a pack of gum or mints with you and have some after you finish your meal, a glass of beer or a stick of cigarette. Then, try to pick the perfect moment, don’t just kiss the person when you feel like it. The right time to kiss your partner is when your eyes meet and both of you aren’t able to look away. It is also nice if you ran your tongue over your lips before kissing because slightly moist lips makes kissing a more pleasurable experience. Another kissing tip that will make you more immersed in it is to close your eyes before your lips meet. Closing your eyes gives more enjoyment as it helps in obstructing any distractions. And to have a kissing experience that you’ll surely think about, make sure that you open your mouth slightly as you place it over your partner’s lips. And as your lips join hers, keep your lips slightly parted and press them tenderly over your partner’s lips. Now that you’ve read this, I know you’re already armed with kissing tips that will definitely make your experience the one that you’ll always remember. Bear these kissing tips in mind and follow these when you got the chance to kiss your girl. And without a doubt, you will absolutely give her the kiss that she’ll think about all night and will leave her looking forward for things to come! About the Author: Datehow (http://www.datehow.com) is the Internet's most comprehensive directory for dating tips, advice and articles for men and women. We have hundreds of top dating tips articles that are updated every week. Dave's Life Changing Program: |
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