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28 February 2008 Criticism| Pets |
Resume | Hypnosis | Kabbalah
| History of Condoms
This eZine (No. 119)
How to Use Criticism as a Learning ToolBy: Ainsley LaingOne of the qualities I really appreciate my husband Dave for is that he knows how to listen to criticism without defense, evaluate it and use the knowledge. It’s easy to see how this life skill (among others) has increased his success in all areas of his life. Accepting criticism as a chance to improve is a valuable life skill. In the workplace, we call it feedback. In our personal relationships we call it criticism. Either way, it’s the same thing. No matter how it’s delivered, the sender is giving us a gift of growth and improvement. It’s important, however, to accept feedback without being defensive or blocking it. Not all criticism is valid, but look objectively and you will probably find opportunity buried in the comment. Everyone loves to learn, but most of us don’t like to be taught. Teaching involves criticism. If you are a parent, you have experienced the age old phenomenon of trying to teach your children without criticism so as to bolster their self esteem. It’s harder than it looks, isn’t it? Do you feel like you have trouble accepting criticism? I don’t know anyone who likes it, but it’s part of the learning experience. Our teachers and mentors do it all the time, and we accept it as part of learning. But what about in our personal lives? Do you get angry or defensive when someone gives you criticism? Or do you see it as a chance to self-correct and improve? Have you ever given “negative feedback” to someone with good intentions which was met with anger? How did you feel? On the flipside, have you given criticism to someone and be told “you are right. Thank you for telling me”! How did that make you feel? Have you ever been through counseling? It’s tough! Why? Because the counselor leads you through self “evaluation” – to get you to a place where you stop blaming others and see your part in your own unhappiness. If you have done this, I congratulate you. Many people are not brave enough to face self-criticism and follow through with lasting change. After all, it’s always easier to blame others for your mistakes. It definitely leads to stagnation. I looked on the web for suggestions on how to receive criticism and learn from it. I found lots of good information. Common reasons why we give criticism:
Some Common Criticism Styles That Hurt:
How to Use Criticism as a Learning Tool:
When you are feeling emotional from someone’s criticism, it’s helpful to try and remember that most criticism is meant to help. Learning to evaluate it objectively will lead to many opportunities for growth and improvement! About the Author: Ainsley Laing, MS. has been a Fitness Trainer for 26 years and writes exclusively Body for Mind eZine. She holds certifications in Group Exercise, Sports Nutrition and Personal Fitness Training. She is also a professional engineer and mom. To see more articles by Ainsley visit http://www.bodyformind.com or the blog at http://www.bodyformind.blogspot.com Resources: http://zenhabits.net/2007/09/how-to-accept-criticism-with-grace-and-appreciation/ The Achievement Paradox, 2002, by Ronald A. Warren. Library. www.newworldlibrary.com http://theroadtoceo.com/How_to_React_to_Criticism.html  Kids, Cats and DogsBy Jan GammThere are some common sense steps to take when it comes to either choosing a pet for the family, or trying to adjust a family pet to having a new baby in the house. So many women, for some odd reason, decide to introduce a new pet to the family home when a new baby is expected. Perhaps all those hormones running up one leg and down the other are making some devilment with the old decision making abilities, because obviously this is the worst possible time to bring a new pet into the house. Bad enough to buy a small pet, some people go the whole hog and purchase a Great Dane puppy or some equally large breed of dog. This poor animal's emotional needs and training issues are going to be set firmly aside as soon as Junior makes an appearance, so it is far kinder to leave well alone and invest in a smaller pet who might not require so much of your time when there is so little of it to go around, to avoid jealous confrontations between you and your pet. If you already have a cat in the house, please be aware that cats love to settle down next to a nice warm baby to sleep. Very often if you ban a cat from baby's room or punish it for going near the new arrival, the cat will resent the discipline and try even harder to gain access to this new bundle smelling of baby powder, who takes all pussycats' lap space, previously reserved for him alone! There is no reason why pets and babies cannot exist in the same house harmoniously, provided precautions are taken not to allow animals to go too near a newborn in view of infection and the dangers of suffocation should the animal settle close to the baby's face etc. Try to remember to make a fuss of your cat or dog when baby is around, so they are less likely to suffer feelings of rejection, especially if you have spoiled the animal prior to baby's arrival. If you have a young family and have decided a pet would be welcome, choose sensibly. Fully matured animals of a breed known to have a possessive nature, such as German Shepherds, Pit bull Terriers, Welsh Collies etc, are not a brilliant idea, especially if you have no idea of their history. If you are choosing from the Pound there are so many smaller breeds with gentle dispositions, such as Labradors, Retrievers and Spaniels. A dog that dives on your children immediately and starts trying to chew their sleeves might be comical to watch but you are likely to have trouble with such a boisterous nature. It is far better to try out a gentle dog, perhaps one that is already house-trained and obedient, especially if you have a limited amount of time to spend training. As for cats, beware of the growling species! Those who are gentle by nature will always rub against your hand and purr loud enough to hear, so listen to what you are being told! About the author: Jan Gamm writes reflections on life with an emphasis on world travel. She has lived in many countries and traveled extensively in the Far East, the Middle East, America, South America and throughout the South Pacific. She writes for fun and for money whenever she can manage it. Comic ReliefComplete physical
I was performing a complete physical, including the visual acuity test. I placed the patient twenty feet from the chart and began, "Cover your right eye with your hand." He read the 20/20 line perfectly. "Now your left." Again, a flawless read. "Now both," I requested. There was silence. He couldn't even read the large E on the top line. I turned and discovered that he had done exactly what I had asked; he was standing there with both his eyes covered. I was laughing too hard to finish the exam. Resume + Results = InterviewsBy Glen SlingerlandSome people go ten or fifteen years between writing resumes. During that time a lot happens, and trying to get it down on paper is a challenge. Part of the problem is putting value in what we do. When we go to work and do the same, or similar thing, day in and day out, we become so good at it we can do it in our sleep. Then, when it is time to write a results driven resume, our first question is, "What did I do everyday?" My answer to that question the first time around was, "I didn't do ANYTHING. I just went to work and did my job. A monkey could do my job!" Your chance of securing an interview with a resume highlighting " a monkey could do my job" is very slim. Start by writing down everything you did during a typical workday. Include the skills you needed to perform each job. It is important to zero in on the skills and recognize the things you needed to know to complete each task. If a monkey could do your job there would be tire swings and the sweet smell of discarded banana peel throughout the office. Your job was so vital to the company you worked for, that somebody, somewhere along the line, decided they needed to hire someone to handle the responsibility. Even if the job doesn't exist any longer due to technology or cutbacks, you have to get in touch with the job's value before you can start writing your résumé. Every job has purpose and so long as you were the person doing it, you were the expert. You knew what it takes to do the job. You knew what tools were needed and how to operate them. You knew how to recognize when the job was well done. These are the points to get across in your resume. Here is an example I use in my workshops. The electrician goes to the contractor to apply for a job. The contractor hires electricians all the time. He (or she) knows exactly what electricians do, so he doesn't need to see a résumé listing tasks. The one thing the contractor doesn't know is what happened when the electrician did their last job. The résumé that gets attention every time is the resume that focuses on what happened, what were the results. What is unique about how the electrician did the job? What makes this electrician better than the other electricians applying for the same job? A simple way to think about results is to think about what would happen if the job weren't done properly. One gentleman said all he did was sweep and clean up the job site and he didn't think it was important to the over all project. So we started taking it apart. I asked him if he didn't sweep up the job site what would happen. He answered it would become extremely messy and unorganized. Then I asked what would happen if it was left messy and unorganized. His response, someone might trip and hurt themselves. Right there we had his first result, which was "ensuring a safe work environment for other trade workers." You will make a better impression with results and accomplishments, and leave the duties and tasks to the monkeys. About the author: Glen Slingerland - A Creative Link,Abbotsford, BC http://www.acreativelink.com Is Hypnosis A Science Or An Art? – It’s All In The MindBy: Richard MacKenzieThe debate is an ongoing one, and no one seems to know the definite answer. So is Hypnosis actually an art or is it a science. Loyalists from both the camps will fervently argue about their case being stronger; however, I maintain that hypnosis is a combination of both these streams. So there! It’s a win-win situation. Researches studying the nature of hypnosis have found that it’s a state of near trance, where the person undergoing hypnosis is extremely relaxed, both internally and externally. We experience a heightened sense of imagination while under a hypnotic state, and are open to suggestions and changes. Through the years psychiatrists and researchers have also figured out a number of instances in our daily lives when we experience these hypnotic states on our own. Times when we are daydreaming, when we are completely engrossed in a book, when we are driving or even while watching a movie; these are situations when we lose ourselves in the moment; we are concentrating on something we are doing with such force, that we shut out external disturbances and stimuli. Even though we are conscious of all that’s going on around us, it seems as if we have switched off mentally. And that is exactly how hypnotherapy works as well. Hypnosis has long been perceived with doubt; all sorts of misgivings have clouded people’s imaginations. Some people called it pagan rituals, while others gave it the sinister name of occult. Popular mediums such as films and books also added to the image by presenting the hypnotist as an evil character who is out to control your life by uttering strange words. For the last few years hypnotherapists like me, aided with research findings have been fighting against that image. If you look at me, you will consider me to be a normal guy; no turbans, gaudy costumes, and cheap jewelry can be found on my person. I am here to break a myth, and I am here to say that hypnotherapy is both a science and art. It is a science because hypnotherapy is being widely practiced today for clinical psychology and its healing properties. People the world over are waking up to the reality of hypnosis being able to cure innumerable lifestyle and personality maladies. From low confidence to sexual issues, from smoking to weight loss…people seem to be benefiting from the effects of hypnosis for a variety of problems. Hypnosis is a science because it deals with our minds – the subconscious mind. A lot of research has been undertaken to understand the way our mind functions; and one of the astounding discoveries was, that our conscious minds are constantly being directed by the more powerful, yet subtle subconscious. So, in truth our subconscious is the real driving force behind all our thoughts and actions; our conscious minds constantly ruminating over the feedback given to it by our subconscious. And hypnotherapy’s underlying belief lies in the power of our subconscious. Hypnotherapy can also be an art, simply because it can be mastered with practice. Something like learning to play a flute, or learning to paint. While we may have the natural flair to be artists, we need to hone our talent. Similarly hypnosis takes practice and patience, before we can see positive results. It is also an art because it deals with humans and human feelings such as jealousy, guilt, shame, which have been so well represented over the years in literature. Hypnotherapy is an art also because individuals who have mastered it can use it for lighthearted entertainment – stage hypnosis is practiced successfully by many professionals, who manage to make people laugh even while demonstrating how powerful our subconscious really is. About the author: Find more infomation on Hypnotherapy and Self Hypnosis at Richard MacKenzie's site. http://www.richardmckenzie.blogspot.com Learn
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 Mysteries of Kabbalah MeditationBy: Darnell IsteadThe world is filled with mysteries. Few, however, are as enchanting and enlightening as the mystery of Kabbalah. Kabbalah is the oldest and most significant wisdom in our history. Through the wisdom of Kabbalah we are able to achieve a higher level of our existence. By understanding our true purpose in life, we can achieve limitless possibilities. In turn, we will also experience deep tranquility and perfection. Those who follow Kabbalah meditation are able to find solutions to problems, and find peace in place of disorder. Kabbalah meditation is also able provide the answer to life's greatest mystery of all, as it allows us to answer the question "Who am I?" Kaballah, when literally translated, means "to receive." Reception is the eminent purpose of Kabbalah. Through Kabbalah meditation we learn how to receive. Further, Kabbalah teaches us that the physical things in life are not important. We learn how to seek the non-physical things in life, and we learn how to obtain them. An ancient text known as the Zohar is the source of Kabbalah wisdom. The Zohar is considered by some historians to be the Holy Grail, and it is no ordinary text written with ink on paper. The Zohar, a twenty-three volume collection of wisdom, is recognized by all religions and also known as the Tree of Life. The Zohar is used to create miracles and maintains the end to worldly destruction and death. To acquire a basic understanding, think of the Zohar as a light bulb, and Kabbalah meditation as a switch. Practicing Kabbalah wisdom is like flipping the switch, and allowing the Zohar to bring light to our lives. This light is able to brighten our darkest areas including sadness, sickness and even death. If you are new to Kabbalah you may be thinking of it as a religion. Kabbalah is not a religion, but it is simply a form of meditation that is about the light. This light is now limited to a few groups of people. Everyone, in spite of religion and race, may be touched by the light. Kabbalists say that Kabbalah meditation answers our three most critical questions: Who we really are, where we came from, and why we are here. To put it more simply, Kabbalah meditation will merely provide you the necessary tools to achieve joy, deep sense of accomplishment, and allows you to experience life under the Higher Being's Light. Kabbalah was seen as mysticism in ancient times. People considered it to be too mystical. However, Kabbalah is now thought of as a science -- the science of the soul. Visiting online sites will guide you to some online courses on Kabbalah meditation. The site kabbalah.com will grant you a thorough tour on the history of Zabbalah as well as the modern Zabbalah meditation practice. It may sound more into the spiritual aspect but it fundamentally works the same manner as the other meditation techniques do. About the author: Writer Darnell Istead writes for several popular web sites, on family happy and family life themes. A Brief History of CondomsBy Ken BrowerThe first ever pioneer, modern brand of condom in use by modern society is Germany's Fromm's Act. The brand was started in 1912 when German manufacturer and innovator Julius Fromm developed a modern manufacturing process that would make condoms attractive and usable. Fromms dipped glass molds into rubber solutions. This technique had helped make the production of very thin condoms without seams possible. By 1930s, manufacturing of condoms further improved and single-use condoms became more popular. Long before Fromm entered into the scene, historians and researchers assert that the use of condoms probably has been in place for close to 3,000 years already. A ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics show a figure of an Egyptian male wearing a device around the penis to help prevent pregnancy during intercourse. Up to now, historians are still debating on whether the condom was used by the Egyptian for ritual purposes. In Italy during the 16th century, scientist Gabriele Fallopio recommended using cloth sheaths as contraceptives. The sheaths needed to be soaked in a chemical solution before being dried and worn during an intimate intercourse. The account of Mr. Fallopio is the first known description ever published about the use of condoms for disease prevention and contraception. The oldest and most ancient form of condoms ever found was discovered in England, in the Dudley Castle. The old condom was made up of animal intestine. Historians and researchers attest that the condoms were used to help prevent the spread of known sexually transmitted diseases of those times. In the 19th century, it was found that in Japan, condoms were made of leather and pliable tortoise shell. The Japanese also used softened animal horns as a form of improvised condoms. When its comes to the use of rubber latex for the manufacturing of condoms, the idea was started by Charles Goodyear. The year was 1844 and the process was initially called rubber vulcanization. The first ever condom made of rubber was effectively and appropriately produced in 1855. Those early condoms by Goodyear were very much reusable, but the tag prices are astronomically high. In the United States, one of the most important markets for condoms, the sale and distribution of condoms were made possible only in 1936. In the year, the US Supreme Court lifted the implementation of the anti-contraceptive legislation called the Comstock Act, which was executed in 1873. During World War I, US soldiers were not advised to wear condoms when having sexual affairs with women in the countries where they are based. As a result, a significant number of the soldiers were infected with sexually transmitted diseases. During World War II, the US government had learned its lesson. US soldiers were advised to use condoms for protection and overall safety when getting involved in sexual acts with local women. Nowadays, there are over 6 billion condoms manufactured and sold every year. Now that they have gained social recognition as a powerful and important tool in the prevention of sexually transmitted infections, condoms continue to expand in the global market as new styles, innovations and features are created. It's safe to say that the condom has a bright and colorful future ahead. About the author: CondomMan.com is a leading online retailer of condoms, selling name brand condoms like Durex, Trojan condoms, Lifestyles and Crown condoms for the best prices online. Buy the Best Condoms Online from Condom Man. Learn how to put on a condom, how to choose the right condom for you, and more. Dave's Life Changing Program: |
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